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Premarital Sex - Positives and Negatives
"Is it ok to have premarital sex?" That is a common question amongteens and engaged couples. Perhaps you are in a relationship that isprogressing in that direction, but you're not sure what to do. In your mind, youare probably weighing the pros and cons of premarital sex. On the positive sideof the scale, there is acceptance from your peers, hope for pleasure, and thefulfillment of sexual desires. The negative side of the scale carries theweights of morals, fear of pregnancy or disease, and guilt. How do these scalesbalance? What is the right decision? Let's take a look at some of the facts.
Premarital Sex - Is it Moral?
Morality is a factor for many people when deciding whether or not to havepremarital sex. Is it a factor for you? After all, the messages we receive frommost TV shows and movies these days tells us "everyone is doing it."In light of today's permissive attitude, your peers may think you're weird toeven question it.


But maybe there is something inside you, like a voice in your head, that ismaking you uncertain about whether or not sex before marriage is a right orwrong action. Many people refer to this voice as their conscience. How can youknow if your "conscience" is right? People all around the world lookto the Bible as a moral or religious book, so let's see what it says aboutpremarital sex.


The Bible refers to premarital sex as fornication. That's a word we don't hearmuch these days, so what does it mean? Fornication is
sexual intercourse between peoplewho are not married to each other.
Theonly distinction the Bible makes between premarital sex and adultery is thatadultery involves married persons while fornication involves those who areunmarried. Premarital sex is just as much of a sin as adultery and all otherforms of sexual immorality. They all involve having sexual relations withsomeone you are not married to.


The Bible explains, "…The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but forthe Lord, and the Lord for the body" (1 Corinthians 6:13). Verse 18 ofthis chapter goes on to say, "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sinsa man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against hisown body." Galatians 5:19 speaks the same, "The acts of the sinfulnature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity…" Ephesians 5:3 says itmost plainly, "But among you there must not be even a hint of sexualimmorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improperfor God's holy people." From these verses, we see that the Bible promotescomplete and total abstinence from premarital sex.
Premarital Sex - Is it Safe Physically and Emotionally?
Another consideration when deciding about premarital sex is safety. Did youknow that 50% of the people who currently have HIV are between the ages of 15and 24?1
Using acondom only reduces the risk of contracting HIV by 85%. Condoms do notsignificantly reduce the risk of contracting other sexually transmitteddiseases.2
Take thesestatistics into consideration when making your decision.
Most people don't consider theemotional effects of premarital sex. You see,

sex is an emotional experience and it affects our lives in ways we don'tunderstand. After engaging in premarital sex, many people express feelings ofguilt, embarrassment, distrust, resentment, lack of respect, tension, and somuch more. As you read the next section, consider God's love for you as aprimary reason for sexual purity. God does not want you to experienceunnecessary emotional pain!
Premarital Sex - Recreation or Re-creation?
In discussing premarital sex, we often focus on the "recreation"aspect of it. Yes, sex is pleasurable. God, our Creator, designed it that way.It may be hard to think of God creating sex, but He did! In God's plan, sex wasdesigned for married couples to enjoy the pleasure and excitement of sexualrelations. The Bible talks about this in Hebrews 13:4, "Marriage should behonored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge theadulterer and all the sexually immoral." God created sex to be fun,exciting, and pleasurable. At the same time, though, it is clear in the Biblethat God restricts sexual activity to married couples.


Why is this? Yes, sex is pleasurable, but in God's view, the primary purpose ofsex is not recreation, but rather re-creation. In other words, sex is forreproduction. God does not limit sex to married couples to rob pleasure fromthose who are unmarried. Rather, God commands against premarital sex in orderto protect unmarried people from unwanted pregnancies, from children born toparents who do not want them, and to protect children from parents who are notprepared for them. Imagine, for a moment, a world without premarital sex. Therewould be no sexually-transmitted diseases, there would be no un-wed mothers,there would be no unwanted pregnancies, there would be no abortions, etc.According to the Bible, abstinence is God's only policy when it comes topremarital sex. Abstinence saves lives, protects babies, gives sexual relationsthe proper value, and most importantly abstinence honors God.
Premarital Sex - Conclusion
Premarital sex has no moral grounds, it is against God, and it is unsafephysically and emotionally. Although sex is pleasurable, it is designed by Godto be enjoyed by two married people.
Premarital Sex - Where Should We Draw the Line?
A frequent question in relation to premarital sex is, "If we can't havesex, how far can we go?" A better question would be "How far shouldwe go?" God's Word does not give us a detailed "list" of thingsa couple should or shouldn't do before they are married. Some use this as anexcuse to "push the envelope" as close to premarital sex as possible.However, just because the Bible does not directly address what a couple shouldor shouldn't do, that does not give us license to do everything up to theborderline of premarital sex. By essence, "foreplay" is designed tobe "before sex" and to get a couple ready for sex. Logically then,all forms of "foreplay" should be restricted to couples who aremarried. Anything that could be considered "foreplay" should beavoided until marriage.


So, if sexual activity and all forms of foreplay should be restricted tomarried couples, what can a pre-married couple do? This is to some degree up tothe couple and their own relationship with God. It is generally recommendedthat a couple not go past holding hands, hugging, and light kissing beforemarriage. The more a married couple has to share exclusively betweenthemselves, the more special and unique the sexual relationship becomes.
Premarital Sex - What If It is Already Too Late?
If you have already engaged in premarital sex, you should make a commitmentwith God, your boyfriend/girlfriend, and yourself to remain sexually pure fromthis point on until marriage. Ask God for help and strength to remain sexuallypure until marriage. God will provide the strength (Philippians 4:13) and graceto overcome the temptation to have sex, as long as you are willing and carefulnot to put yourself in a place of temptation. Remember the Lord's Prayer:"Lead us not into temptation?" That does not mean He will deliver usfrom the consequences of our own bad choices. If you fall to temptation, it isnot because God led you there.


1 Corinthians 10:13 declares, "No temptation has seized you except what iscommon to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond whatyou can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so thatyou can stand up under it." It is possible to
fighttemptation.


Also, it is important to remember that God can and does forgive the sin ofpremarital sex. When a person places his or her faith in the Lord Jesus Christfor salvation, desiring to turn away from the old life of sin, all sins areforgiven. That includes past, present, and future, big and small. Jesus died topay the penalty for all of our sins, including premarital sex. Once they areforgiven, they are all forgiven. Colossians 1:13-14 says, "For he hasrescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of theSon he loves, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins." Whatwe are to do is confess our sins. 1 John 1:9 says, "If we confess oursins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from allunrighteousness."
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这是前几天上交流课...
交流的内容..
突然想起来了....
觉得这话题..不错...
给大家共享下..

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